What a Maxim Editor Has Learned About Women March 30, 2009
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"Women hate Maxim" was not included.
This list of things an editor of Maxim has learned about women includes the obvious ones such as wanting a clear apology and not an explanation and also that women dress up “for their girlfriends” and not men. However, this one was a big surprise:
“6. Women are vulnerable to the curveball. Compliment a hot woman on being hot and a man will run smack into her defenses, no matter how creative he is (and we can get very creative; this is Prime Directive stuff). But compliment a smart woman on being hot, or a funny woman on being smart, and unless he is a total dorkasaurus about it the man will double his odds at least, as his target correctly recognizes him as unusually perceptive, sensitive, brilliant, etc…”
Luckily for me, I don’t fall for compliments too easily. The last time I was at a club and a guy informed me that my glasses turned him on despite the tape on the side thanks to my latest mosh pit debacle, I limped away immediately.
When Your Girlfriend Names Your Cat After You March 24, 2009
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Well, you do kind of look alike.
Another fun question for Jimmy the Bartender on MensHealth.com:
“My girlfriend named her cat after me. Now I’m weirded out. Should I ask her to rename it?”
Ask her? Convince her! I haven’t been this freaked since I saw a guy put maple syrup on his fries….Read More
Dating for Nerds March 17, 2009
Posted by whoneedstherapy in Love & Sex.Tags: Alex Benzer, Lindsay Lohan, Love, nerds, sex, Tao of Dating
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Dr. Alex Benzer, author of the “Tao of Dating” books, wants to help the nerds of the world (of both sexes) get laid by teaching them the things they didn’t learn at Harvard, Yale and knitting class. In “Smart, Meet Heart” he gives advice for those who have nurtured their minds at the expense of their love lives. His tips include “make meaningful connections to other human beings a priority” and “embrace your sexuality.”
My personal favorite is “get out of your own way.” Benzer recommends embracing your “no-self,” which to me means embracing yourself beyond labels like “nerd” and realizing a human being is full of possibilities in regard to identiy. Too often labels limit our actions, and becoming attached to a “nerd” identity, despite its implied intelligence, can be as detrimental as pretending you’re the next Lindsay Lohan.
But all this is much easier to understand if you get off the internet once in a while. Sigh.
Intimacy=Good, Mating=Bad? March 16, 2009
Posted by whoneedstherapy in Love & Sex.Tags: Cupid's Poisoned Arrow, Love, Marnia Robinson, mating, Monday, sex
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Get a...giant tree, you two!
This was not a good Monday. I woke up hungover from Girl Scout cookies, the heater in my car didn’t dry my hair properly, and now Marnia Robinson, author of “Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow” tells me that mating is at odds with bonding, and the reality of my early twenties flings are setting in. I need a drink.
Breaking News: Race Has Nothing to do With It, and Other Sex Myths, Debunked! March 14, 2009
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Umm...don't know about that chili pepper. (Source: MensHealth.com)
Lemondrop.com brings you this list of 10 sex myths that are actually false. Some of them aren’t too surprising (women have to be “cajoled” to be in the mood?), however, some, like “men like lingerie” might surprise you. And now I will give myself a pat on the back for buying my underwear at Target-suckers!
“But I’m Busy!” And Other Bad Break Up Reasons September 25, 2008
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Your music time is important, but not that important.
Leave it to eHarmony to tell you that being busy and having baggage are not a good enough excuse to end a relationship. In “8 Bad Break Up Reasons,” the site explains that although you’re “a very important person, but never too important to enjoy one of the greatest and most important pleasures in life: a loving relationship. So sure, go to the gym, put in some overtime at work, write a book, save the planet. But understand that having love in your life will make all that seem even more worthwhile.”
Okay, so maybe they have a point. Just don’t try all those things at once. Unless you’re Al Gore, anyway. And in that case, can you fix the economy while you’re at it?
September Book Club: College Call Girl September 20, 2008
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Another bad name for guys with tattoos.
Okay, I know it’s almost the end of September, but you once you start reading “Confessions of a College Call Girl,” my latest and favoritest blog, you won’t be able to put your mouse away. Well, until your boss walks in, anyway.
The blog is a retelling of one New York woman’s experiences as, you guessed it, a college call girl. CCG began life as a lady of the night (did I just write that?) to put herself through school in New York City, and her blog is a humorous yet deeply revealing account of her experiences. I recommend reading from the beginning to get the full effect of CCG’s rocky and sometimes heart-wrenching self-discovery.
Beyond telling the stories of her various sexcapades- some bitingly funny, some dangerous and some just downright kinky – CCG also provides an honest portrait of herself without resorting to your typical tongue-in-cheek, pseudo Sex and the City fair. The blog speaks of sexual liberation and humor while also delving into sadder tales of rape, drug use and learning to love oneself no matter the path. In the end, CCG’s writing style bares it all (haha, get it?) and makes you feel like she could be a friend of yours whom you had just spent hours talking to. About vibrators and stuff.
Antisocial…or Just Slutty?! July 31, 2008
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- Is Mary not as clueless as you think?
You know that friend you go to the club with who always manages to go home with a guy, while you sit there and ponder what’s wrong with you? Well, turns out that not only are you just not friendly enough to be that free, you also aren’t antisocial enough.
According to this article from MSNBC, those who are on the two ends of the warmth spectrum are the most promiscuous, as in those who are the most friendly or the most cold. So next time you’re desperate for to get gonorrhea a romp, just call every guy in the bar an asshole while sitting in a corner- that should do the trick.
